It never fails to shock me how a tip is demanded in the US. People simply refuse to listen to reason when we (yes, there are others!) tell them that leaving a tip isn’t necessary. Well, I’m hoping for too much here, but if you’re a waiter, here are 5 reasons why I will try my best not to give any money to you and why the reasons for tipping are crappy.
1. You act as if you’re my best friend
Just leave me alone ok? I don’t want to bloody chit chat with you. I want food. FOOD! Get it? It’s a restaurant. I go there to eat. I go because I want either Italian food, Chinese Food or something else which I can’t get in a McDonald’s. So I come to a restaurant to fulfill my cravings for it. I will pay for what I value – food. Not you.
Christ, you offend me – kneeling down next to my table, pretending to like me and chatting as if you’re my best friend when it’s obvious that all you’re after is the tip! I’m not a bloody money bag you know. I will pay the bill which includes the cost of the food, the environment and the salaries of the people involved – nothing more.
The only way to get money out of me that I don’t have to legally pay is by prying it out of my cold dead hands…
Bottom line: I don’t want to know your name, or interact with you for any longer than I have to in order to place my order. As far as I’m concerned, you’re the equivalent of a conveyor belt that brings me my food and a computer into which I input my order. Of course, I won’t be rude. But don’t expect me to interact with you any more than I would with some stranger.
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2. You don’t get paid enough
And this is my problem how exactly? It’s astonishing that customers are expected to make up for your employer’s cheapness in not paying you a decent wage. Please include the full cost in everyone’s bill thank you very much. I’ll pay it because I have to and the charge is there for me to see.
What’s really funny here is that no one seems to criticize the employers! All criticism is reserved for non tipping customers instead of the owners of the restaurant for not paying a decent wage. Wtf! Could it possibly be because you guys know you can make much more by tips and under report your income to the IRS?
3. You’ll spit in my food if I don’t tip you?
And I’ll shoot your kid if you don’t give me a million dollars. Seriously, am I even hearing this right? You’re actually using the threat of blackmail to make me pay you? Well as long as you’re openly claiming to be a criminal it’s all right I guess.
Fortunately that’s why I prefer buffets. Listen apart from it being illegal, this shows your poor integrity. But if you spit in someone’s food because they didn’t give you money you didn’t earn, then you’re a loser and deserve to be a waiter for the rest of your life.
4. Bringing me my food isn’t worthy of being paid extra
Did you cook it? Did you invent it? No. You picked it up and brought it to me. While it might not be easy, there are plenty of jobs which are much worse – shop floor workers for example. And I’ve been a shop floor manager, so I know. Face it – compared to other jobs, being a waiter is unskilled. You get paid what the market will think your services are worth. You don’t deserve more for your work over and above what your employer should pay you.
5. Money doesn’t grow on trees
I expect you to be grateful and pray for me at night if I tip you 10%. Be happy I gave you anything at all. I worked for the money in my wallet and by giving you some I didn’t have to, I’m doing you a favor. Learn to remember that when people give you something they don’t need to, it’s a favor. You don’t complain that they didn’t give you more!
By the way, the same thing above applies to all professions that demand tips including those on cruise liners.
So now that you understand why I won’t give you money you don’t deserve, stop with the “oh how could you?” attitude. I can. And I will.
Update: Here’s a rebuttal of the many silly justifications for tipping that people have given in the comments section.
I’ve enjoyed reading through these comments. Bhagwad never loses his cool, yet so many waiters are losing their shit!
In reply to Huxley
i think even i’ve lost my cool huxley and i apologize for that, but bhagwad, after three years, has maintained his stance with strength and dignity, not letting detractors get to him.
Zapious, you are a great guy hahahaha. I can’t believe how intelligent you are and that is a complete rarity on the world wide web!! What you say about how waiters shoudl see the other side of the coin is totally on!! I didn’t even think of that! I’m so glad you brought it up.
Seth! How is it about being cheap? Isn’t that just fiscal responsibility? If americans displayed some fiscal responsibility, don’t you’d think we’d be a little more debt free? Money doesn’t grow on trees. I don’t pay for ANYTHING unless i am specifically billed for it. I don’t believe in anything arbitrary.
To honor zapious, i’m just gonna copy and paste him.
“Servers… You say you are educated and intelligent. Why is it then , that you can’t , for one second, see why people don’t like being DOUBLE BILLED. If YOU went to any other business and they acted like you do (extra extra extra.. I can’t do my job unless you pay me extra) you would be outraged. Why, for just a moment, can’t you understand the other side. And don’t say the non tippers don’t see your side, cause we do! You are being treated UNFAIR no doubt, BUT it’s NOT the customers fault”
Could not have said it better. If anyoen acted like this at, say, a mcdonalds, which is also food service, trust me those employees would be fired. See Kaylas post above. Also, the wages are NOT THE CONSUMERS RESPONSIBILITY!!! I would like to know how many people have taken basic economics to understand how capitalism and free markets work. The consumer is not involved in the livelihood of the employee and it is not his/her concern. As sad as that may sound, thats how capitalism works. Not everyone is guranteed middle class. Not everyone is guranteed food, water or shelter. The USSR had a system like that and look what happpened to them. (sorry i digress).
California law on tips and gratuitites (government website):
Is a mandatory service charge considered to be the same as a tip or gratuity?
A. No, a tip is a VOLUNTARY AMOUNT left by a patron for an employee. A mandatory service charge is an amount that a patron is required to pay based on a CONTRACTUAL AGREEMENT or a specified required service amount listed on the menu of an establishment. An example of a mandatory service charge that is a contractual agreement would be a 10 or 15 percent charge added to the cost of a banquet. Such charges are considered as amounts owed by the patron to the establishment and are not gratuities voluntarily left for the employees. Therefore, when an employer distributes all or part of a service charge to its employees, the distribution may be at the discretion of the employer and the service charge, which would be in the nature of a bonus, would be included in the regular rate of pay when calculating overtime payments.
so there you have it. In californai at least, unless the restaraunt states otherwise, i am not legally requried to tip. You cannot do anything about it.
This is going to be very long, but if you do not read all of it you have no right to reply.
Kayla, clearly you have never been a waitress because if you ever were, you’d never say that. You have to do heavy lifting? So do we. Bringing in deliveries of huge bulk orders to stock the kitchen/bar with, changing kegs, moving all of the tables and chairs when there are parties being thrown, taking out the garbage that sometimes weighs over 80 pounds, and I’d like to see you try to carry a gigantic tray with over five heavy plates of food on it with one hand that you have to keep above your head. You have to cook multiple orders at once? We have to take care of multiple tables at once. Not just taking orders and bringing out the food like everyone assumes is the only thing we do. We host, bus tables, and run food whenever the people who are hired to do those things are not around. We open and close the restaurant, we roll up all of the silverware, we wash the dishes that the dishwasher didn’t get to, we do set-ups for all the dishes that require them, we get the drinks for you ourselves and fill them up, and we bring you all the extra stuff you want. And I don’t know where you go out to eat, but where I am we never get to just stand around. If we have taken care of everything, we make up work to do. And stop feeling so bad for the cooks. They get paid quite well. I talk to a lot of them, and every single one of them says that they’re not bothered by the heat and the money makes it all worth it. You say if you can do your job without tips, so can we? Please. If you made $2.13/hour, you’d feel much differently.
JC, job is defined as a paid position of regular employment. While we are paid quite little hourly, we are still paid and we work regularly. So being a server is a real job.
Alex, I feel like you’re like JC’s kid or something because you said almost the same thing in a much more immature way (I didn’t think it was possible to be more immature than JC, but I saw your comment and was quite mistaken). First of all, how old are you? 12? Because only children call other people “faggots”.
More than we need? Okay, I challenge you to live off of $2.13/hour without making any tips. Let’s see where that lands you. Drugs and booze? Try food and bills. Besides, junkies and alcoholics could never function as servers. Servers need to be able to handle multiple tasks at once and they also need to know how to properly interact with people. People who struggle with substance abuse can’t do any of that.
Zapious, if you were being “double billed”, you’d be getting charged twice as much. And actually, I would not be outraged at all. If they make as little hourly as I do, I’d have absolutely no problem tipping them. Why can’t I understand the other side? Because every “reason” you have translates to “I’m stingy and I don’t give a shit about anyone else but myself”. You keep bringing up how people have much more difficult jobs and do it without tips, but as you are well aware, they’re able to actually make a living without tips. It may not be a fancy life, but it’s doable. Would you do a job for $2.13/hour with pride if you weren’t getting tipped? No, nobody would.
You know why McDonald’s can have everything so cheap? Many reasons. One, on average they have a lot less staff to pay per franchise than other restaurants do. Plus, they don’t have to pay the cooks there as much as the cooks and chefs (as in, people who went to culinary school and actually know how to make an appetizing dish) at other restaurants. Fast food cooks only know the basics. Flipping patties, frying fries, whatever you they do is nothing compared to the cooks we have.
Two, McDonald’s “food” is hardly food at all. Therefore, it is dirt cheap. Other restaurants might get their food in bulk for lower prices than they sell it for, but it isn’t the crap you’re getting from McDonald’s or any other fast food chain and therefore costs much more.
Three, McDonald’s has billions of dollars. Hardly anything will set them back financially because (God knows why) so many people choose to consume the nasty shit that they serve.
Of course you’re going to mention that there are a bunch of chain restaurants like Ruby Tuesdays, Fridays, etc. that also have billions of dollars. Perhaps they can afford to pay their servers more (and from what I’ve heard, if you work in one of those places long enough you can actually end up with a decent hourly wage. However, once again, remember that they have a lot more staff to pay than fast food restaurants.
Now, let’s talk about privately owned restaurants. I can guarantee you that the prices will go through the roof if they were to pay their servers decent hourly wages. They have so many employees to pay, but they don’t have billions of dollars to pay them all. And yes, they do need all of those employees. Not having enough people will just make the restaurant impossible to run. Service will be extremely slow, the kitchen will always be backed up, and in the end customers will stop showing up because the place will just go to shit.
Even if the restaurant owner personally is wealthy, they should not have to pay servers literally out of their pockets because the purpose of owning a restaurant is to MAKE money, not lose it. Unless you directly work for someone (as in babysitting, dog walking, or cleaning their home), they should not be forced to pay you out of pocket.
You admit that it is unfair for us to work for $2.13/hour, but yet you punish us for it? You know what that says about you? It says that you only care about yourself. Also, do you realize that by not tipping, you are actually making us pay to work for you? You think we get to keep all of our tips, but often times we do not. Bussers, food runners, hosts, and sometimes even bartenders often need to be tipped out. We tip them out based on a percentage of the total sales that we made (which only includes food and drinks, not tips). Once that amount is calculated, we take it out of our tips and give it to them. So even if you don’t tip us, your bill is added to the total sales, making us owe them more money even though we made none from you guys. And where does that money come out of? The tips that we already made.
Also, I love how you call “T” out for being too “cowardly” to write their name, but you don’t say anything about “Common Sense” being a coward. Or “JJ”. Or “JC”. And “Zapious” doesn’t sound like a real name either.
You absolutely should stay home if you’re not going to tip. It won’t run the restaurant out of business since most people actually do tip. If you don’t tip and your check was small, it may not have too much of a financial impact, but it is just as rude as literally spitting in our faces. If your check was large and you don’t tip, that is beyond being rude. That’s screwing your server over to the extreme.
Servers are never going to unionize because minimum wage is not acceptable for the amount of work we do. You can get minimum wage by standing at a cash register. We don’t want the tipping system to change because we make more money this way. If my employer told me he’d pay me the equivalent of what I’m making now with tips and salary combined, then I’d have absolutely no problem with a “no tips” policy. But the restaurant does not bring in enough money to do that for all of the servers. It would have to raise the prices significantly.
And do you really think it’s that simple for us to unionize? There is no union for us to join. We’d have to establish one. Do you realize how difficult that is? I’d like to see you try to do it.
If you have made it this far, congrats. You’re such a trooper.
In reply to Pissed Off
But all workers in every other industry in the country have unionized haven’t they? Why do you suppose that waiters haven’t unionized to get their fair share of wages yet?
In reply to Pissed Off
So the cat is out of the bag eh? You lot will never unionize because you earn way more through tipping than the minimum wage set by Federal law. You actually feel waiting tables is worthy of far more than minimum wage, yet most people in the service industry work harder than waiters and only ever get the minimum wage.
Another waiter’s post already mentioned getting paid $40-50 per hour thanks to the tipping system. Yet no matter how much money you make it won’t stop you from trash talking and swearing if a few customers don’t decide to tip. The sense of entitlement is strong here. So easy to forget that tipping is optional isn’t it?
I think we have already heard enough. All of a sudden these sob stories of not being able to pay bills or eat decent food sounds like Oscar worthy drama to me.
@pissed off–i’m going to have to agree with bhagwad–why not unionize? Why not just QUIT the position if it pays so low? it just seems fiscally irresponsible to your family and yourself if you work at such a low paying job relying on tips. Again, if i’m not required to pay for something, i’m not going to pay for it. You are right, as a consumer, I only do care for myself. I live in a capitalist society and I have every right to care for myself. I’ve never worked for less than minimum wage. do you know why? I don’t agree with it. I don’t agree with an employer that will pay me that low simply put. I find work that pays me higher, thats it.
Pissed off–as elaborate as your answer may be, it seems that you are trying to simply draw sympathy and not facing the reality that tipping is nothing but CONSUMERS paying a fee that they are not required to pay for. If a tip is mandatory, put it on the bill.
I don’t agree at all with minimum wage. If you are not paid minimum wage, i don’t mean to sound mean, but again, as a consumer, its not my responsibility. I have a family of my own. As a human being, my blood comes before anyone else. Thats reality and i’m not afraid to admit it.
I will continue to go to restaraunts and I will continue to tip as I PLEASE.
Pissed Off… I read your whole comment .Perhaps you should practice what you preach and read and UNDERSTAND what you read. You keep saying the same old argument “I have to work so hard for my $2.00/hr and the customer is punishing me for not tipping” Your BOSS and YOU are punishing you. How much clearer could it be… YOU choose a $2.00/hr job, YOU. If you people are so educated, then tell me why anyone with a ounce of common sense (not talking about you Common Sense) would take a job like that? I’ve done menial jobs my whole life… NO tips, and always did it with pride and integrity. I NEVER blamed my customers for my low wages, or for the jobs I choose, or for my financial problems.
It’s not the customer fault for the path YOU took in life.
I think you need to come out of your fantasy world. “A restaurant owner shouldn’t have to pay wages out of his pocket”oh please. You do what you have to. Perhaps he should learn how to run a business properly. My family has had many small business over the years. My mother ran a little food business and didn’t take wages for herself for a year. You talk about others being children, but I see the problem now. You are young, and have grown up with this sense of entitlement (like the girl above who said”I pay for MOST of my own stuff”. you should pay for ALL your stuff) It’s always everyone else’s fault.
2 Final comments….
Sorry if I don’t feel sorry for your $200/hr job. I am selling my house that I spent the last 4 years renovating. The market is so poor, that I will be LUCKY to get the my investment back and forget about being paid for the last four years of work. $2.00/hr would be preferable to $0.00. But maybe I should go on message boards and whine about how hard I worked for nothing and expect strangers to “TIP” me and make up for my loss.
P.S. McDonalds almost went bankrupt aprox. 10 or so years ago. Maybe you should check your facts
on what a McDonalds franchise costs! But they recovered, and not from ripping off their staff!
Correction $2.00/hr
Zapious–again right on!!! I really feel that people that are pro tipping are simply playing victim rather than providing any sort of corrective action. It is solely the employer and employees’ responsibility for wages, NOT THE CONSUMER!!! I personally don’t believe in the government mandating minimum wage just because in a free society such as ours, individuals should have the freedom to work with whatever wage they want whether 0.50/hr or 500.00/hr. Its always up to the individual and it always depends on his/her experience. I work in the healthcare/biotech field. I provide patients with the best service i can. Do i expect a tip? NO!!!!!! Patient’s lives are at my hands, i don’t expect a tip. Wait staff need to realize that they should do their job for the sake of doing their job, nothing else. Again, i will ask you pissed off, if the wait job is so difficult, WHY ARE YOU STILL WORKING AS A SERVER??
In a capitalist society, people have to realize that we have great freedoms, but those freedoms come at a cost. Restaraunt owners sometimes do have to pay out of pocket. Zapious mentioned an EXCELLENT example where he has a rennovated home that he may lose money on. That is the other end of the sword in capitalism, but guess what? There is always an upside.
People should quit whining and do their jobs. Thats what makes America so great. Hard workers. The spirit of America is going down. Our fiscal irresponsibility alongside with our need for this and need for that is why we are where we are.
(Posted my full name for a reason.) I DIDN’T EVEN READ YOUR WHOLE POST, AND I STILL THINK YOU ARE THE BIGGEST ASSHOLE ON THE WHOLE PLANET!! You say it’s not our fault how much we get paid? Correct, it’s yours. Think about your job, you get paid because people need you. If you are lawyer, people NEED you. A doctor? People NEED you. What if us servers weren’t around? Would you get your food? Yea, from your own stove, in your own house. But you need us to fulifill that craving you have. If I could, I would represent myself for that speeding ticket. But I can’t. Because I am not a lawyer, but I do NEED one. Find a restaurant on the entire planet where not ONE SINGLE PERSON but you, is responsible for you getting your food. And I will stand down and agree with this entire BULL SHIT blog. Do it…
You want food and someone to wait on you hand and foot, pay for it. ASSHOLE!!
In reply to JILLIAN LEE MERTZ
It do pay for it. It’s called…hold your breath…a bill!
In reply to JILLIAN LEE MERTZ
bhagwad is correct–we do pay for what we are contractually obligated to pay for on the bill. any other required fee should be written on the receipt in which the establishment provides. by law, i am not required to tip. i can tip however i please. check california and other state laws. i still don’t understand why i have to pay an arbitrary 15% tip. who made the 15% rule? why not 10%? 5%? 3.142856200583730857%? 25%? 21.847503827%?
In the field of mathematics, science and economics, there is no room for frivolity or the arbitrary.
People only need lawyers when they want. Some people don’t NEED the doctor. Its a false argument you are providing, i’m sorry.
the speeding ticket–why can’t you represent yourself? i have and i won. just a side note.
In reply to JILLIAN LEE MERTZ
@JILLIAN LEE MERTZ …Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha That is, by far, the stupidest comment I’ve read yet. You shouldn’t have posted your name for the world to see, with that comment! Guess you proved my point about education or lack there of.
In reply to JILLIAN LEE MERTZ
Yes, people need you and you are compensated accordingly by your employer. Apparently your amazing one of a kind skill set is worth 2$/h to your employer. Something to think about.
You, Sir, are a fucking douchebag.
When I don’t have the money for a tip, but I would have the money for just the food and drinks… I either don’t order drinks so I can tip, or—- I DON’T eat at a restaurant.
If you don’t want to tip someone, but you still want to eat out, then eat some place that you are not waited on.
WAITED ON. Yeah, they wait on you, and their meager restitution for 2.13/hr. is, hopefully, double the tax. That’s it. If you’re too much of a tightwad to dole that out, then you shouldn’t set foot in a restaurant. (I would go into the whole we-don’t-have-a-god-damn-caste-system-so-quit-treating-them-like-shit-beneath-your-shoes-you-worthless——- ahem, but that borders on racist :D)
Don’t pat yourself on the back for starting a revolution//helping//getting them to revolt against the restaurant industry. Don’t congratulate yourself for pointing out what you view as a flaw in our society. YOU ARE NOT DOING ANY OF THOSE THINGS. YOU ARE SIMPLY SCREWING OVER A VERY SMALL PERCENTAGE OF WAITSTAFF WHO HAVE THE MISFORTUNE OF SERVING YOU FOR NOTHING.
For most other people, the benefit of tip incentives for good service is what makes or breaks fine dining=> the waitresses who serve them are committed to going above and beyond their job description to provide their customers with an excellent dining experience. THEY ARE rewarded by their employers by being given positions in top tier restaurants, better shifts.
The institution of tipping in the United States is not completely flawed. It allows the cream to rise to the top. You don’t walk into III Forks and get a table from the “kid” you describe (****and if you were, for one second, as fucking rude to your server for being friendly to you, and acted-out your opinion of list item #1, I guarantee you the owner would kick your ass out, and you’d never be welcomed back****) The very best servers end up receiving tables from customers who have dined at-their-service who request them by name when they make their reservations; (s)He will remember their names, what they prefer to drink, and, in some cases, details about their lives they have previously mentioned. They may come back for that particular server for years.)
Restaurants are part of the HOSPITALITY AND SERVICE industry. That is what you receive when you go there. Hospitality and service. If you don’t care about those things, then find a place that has a counter… order, stand around, grab your food, and go.
In reply to Christine
Here’s the deal. Just bring me my food ok? Take my order, go to the kitchen, and bring it back to me. You can dispense with your “dining experience”.
Your pay is not my problem. Between you and your employer. Don’t come crying to me because you get paid less. I’ve come to eat, not solve the world’s problems.
In reply to Christine
you know you may bring your emotional pleas upon this thread, however it does not change such as the frivolity of the tip system. again if there is a need for a labor fee, such as when a plumber comes to your house, it should be added to the bill. the price of restaraunt food is already marked up, so i see no reason to add an additional fee, however if it is necessary, then it should be clearly stated on a bill. I applaud restaraunts that have a tipping policy regarding 6 or more people. they make it clear. Why can’t that be the policy for all restaraunt patrons?
again it seems that the pro tip people are not adding anything insightful, but rather using their pleas and their lower standard of living in order to provide a sense of guilt. Are you aware that this is a cardinal sin in ANY service industry? NEVER MAKE THE PATRON FEEL GUILTY!!!! and the customer is always right, no matter what. I think this is an American problem. The kids here have gotten so entitled and so spoiled they feel they deserve EVERYTHING!!! It is not my problem that your negotiation skills with your employer are not up to par leaving you with a small salary. Like bhagwad said: “Here’s the deal. Just bring me my food ok? Take my order, go to the kitchen, and bring it back to me. You can dispense with your “dining experience”.
Your pay is not my problem. Between you and your employer. Don’t come crying to me because you get paid less. I’ve come to eat, not solve the world’s problems.
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btw america does have a pseudo caste system. Go drive on any Martin Luther King Jr Blvd in America and you will know EXACTLY what i’m talking about. Drive in Oakland, South central, the Bronx, Santa Ana, OKC, DC, Miami (the spinal laceration capital of the world), St. Louis, Birmingham, Garey, Camden, Newark, and much more that i don’t have time to list and you’ll see first hand the American caste system.
justa few interesting qutoes from above: “YOU ARE NOT DOING ANY OF THOSE THINGS. YOU ARE SIMPLY SCREWING OVER A VERY SMALL PERCENTAGE OF WAITSTAFF WHO HAVE THE MISFORTUNE OF SERVING YOU FOR NOTHING.” you are saying nothing, which implies a stealing. The bill is always fulfilled by the consumer, so again, why should the consumer add additionally if the contract has been fulfilled? When you go to the doctor, you pay a copy of $10. Do you pay an extra 20% (2 dollars extra) so the LVN/RN can be paid as well? NO!!!
Wages in themselves are arbitrary. If you get $3.00/hr, you adjust your living that way, that is it. It is not the consuemrs fault that you receive a lower salary. Again, unionize, boycott, or QUIT the establishment that is paying such lousy wages. f the institution is so flawed as you say, then why do you continue to force yourself to be apart of a flawed status quo? You also explain the hospitality and the service industry. I never once here complaints from the hotel management people. Why do the wait staff people complain?
I think you guys may be a bit too young to understand bhagwad, zapious or me, but understand that you have been apart of a silly status quo. You can get out of it, but you have to use your mind and get your hands a little dirty. In life, you should never EXPECT something from people You get what you get. In a capitalist society, you are not guranteed riches or even wages. Some guys are smart enough to realize that. Libertarians such as Ron paul want to end the minimum wage because he knows that it is actually hurting the poor more than its helping. Norway doesn’t have a minimum wage and they have the highest GDP in the world!!!! Countries such as malaysia and brunei are kicking american butts because they are going up while we are busy complaining and in effect going down. they have no minimum wage, total free capitalismSee a pattern?
In reply to Christine
@ Christine…Obviously you are another under educated person. Anyone who starts a post, the way you did isn’t even worthy of someone taking the time to read it. I guess when you don’t have a leg to stand on, you talk like that. Here’s a thought….take your tips, go get a education , come back here and READ the post above before you start with the same old nonsense excuses to try to support your case.
By the way, thank you for proving my point, you have to brutalize people here, the same way you do to customers, to get those tips!
Sorry, I can’t resist…. @ JILLIAN LEE MERTZ …. “Find a restaurant on the entire planet where not ONE SINGLE PERSON but you, is responsible for you getting your food. And I will stand down and agree with this entire BULL SHIT blog.”
Hello it’s called a smorgasbord! ( don’t come back and say the sever put it in the warm table because I’ve seen the kitchen staff do that, and you did say”getting your food”, not preparing it.)