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Do People Still Care about Caste?

This is an honest question - do people still care about caste in today's world? A person I know was asked about their caste recently from an otherwise well educated, "progressive" seeming person. The question came out of the blue from nowhere! … [Continue reading]

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“He Lost Control” – Why that’s a Bullshit Excuse

Underlying most of the victim blaming that goes on when a woman is assaulted, is a scary and rather offensive assumption. That men "can't control themselves". Apparently not a tiny number of people think that we are these slavering, foaming at the … [Continue reading]

I do NOT live in a country whose Constitution allows for discrimination against people based on their sexual preference. That Constitution is defended by the Supreme Court to protect and to strike down laws that are unconstitutional. The SC is failing to do its JOB by letting illegal laws stand and by passing the buck to the legislature.

Dear SC – We Want you to do your JOB!

How easy it is to lose faith in an institution you respected. When it comes to finding Section 377 unconstitutional, it's one whammy after another. After the Indian Supreme Court failed abysmally in its duty of protecting the fundamental rights of … [Continue reading]

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Hindi Movies – Do Women WANT to be Hounded?

Anupa was watching a movie called Vicky Donor on her laptop the other day and was telling me how the hero "gets" the girl. First she finds him irritating, but he continues to stalk her, force himself on her and make her feel uncomfortable. They … [Continue reading]

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Stop Talking about “Africans” – Racism is Disgusting

What is racism you ask? When Somnath Bharti says "Nigerian girls and men all indulge in prostitution and drug trafficking", it's racism. When people refer to "Africans" and what "they" do, it's racism. It doesn't just end with race or nationality. … [Continue reading]

It's foolish to think that Section 377 will only be used against homosexuals. This law affects EVERYONE. The chargesheet against Asaram for example includes

Section 377 Affects You Too – Asaram Charged with “Oral Sex”

There's a glaring hole in the arguments around Section 377. Everyone is so focused on whether homosexuality is "unnatural" and is "destroying Indian culture" that they're missing the wood for the trees. Section 377 affects us all - both gay people … [Continue reading]

We are prisoners in our own minds. Science hasn't been kind to free will. All the evidence points to our brains being machines governed by the laws of nature and we're just along for the ride. Despite this, the illusion of free will is very strong...and probably necessary

There’s No Free Will – But why the Resistance?

It's increasingly clear that "free will" as traditionally understood is an illusion. There are conflicting definitions of what free will means but for most, it's in the context of freedom from natural laws. In other words the popular notion of … [Continue reading]

Comments and arguments are fun. Until they're not. Here are three easy rules to follow when commenting. Don't get personal, give snippets from citations, and stay on topic

3 Rules for Commenting

I love arguments and discussions. Over the years I've had the honor of having many marathon debates particularly with guys like Ketan Panchal who while disagreeing with my views always keep it clean, and never get personal no matter how absurd they … [Continue reading]

By blaming the victim for their problems, we comfort ourselves into feeling that the world isn't random. That bad things don't happen to good people. It's taken to an extreme with the popular concept of

Why Do We Indians Blame the Victim?

The Khobragade episode has exposed our priorities. In our eagerness to defend the so-called "honor of our nation", most people seem to have forgotten that Devyani's arrest was not due to a victimless crime. If there is to be any focus on this case, … [Continue reading]

You can't expect an important person like me - a Deputy Consul General in New York to do without a low priced maid! After all, I'm special and if I don't even have household help, why even bother being a diplomat!

The Poor Indian Diplomat – I’m an Uncommon Criminal!

It's a tough time for us diplomats these days. You see, we're a cut above the rest of the population. Why else are we sent abroad - that too in the US! In India we all know that people with status get perks the rest of the population doesn't. Red … [Continue reading]