{"id":2374,"date":"2010-07-04T17:08:12","date_gmt":"2010-07-05T00:08:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bhagwad.com\/blog\/?p=2374"},"modified":"2010-07-04T17:08:12","modified_gmt":"2010-07-05T00:08:12","slug":"question-for-khaps-child-vs-parents-who-wins","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bhagwad.com\/blog\/2010\/politics\/question-for-khaps-child-vs-parents-who-wins.html\/","title":{"rendered":"Question for Khaps – Child vs Parents. Who wins?"},"content":{"rendered":"

As a legal writer, I frequently pen articles on US divorces – including those involving child custody. One recurring theme that keeps coming up, is how the courts put the child’s welfare above that of the parents. In short, it doesn’t matter how much either parent “needs” the child for emotional support. What matters is which parent’s custody will be good for the kid. This is true not only in US law, but also in Indian law. The Indian Special Marriage Act 1954 insists that education and maintenance of children shall be the basis for granting custody.<\/p>\n

So it was with irritation and amusement that I read a news piece reporting that our old friends the Khaps want to lower the marriageable age of girls to 15<\/a>. The reason?<\/p>\n

“By lowering the legal age of marriage, young couples can be prevented from eloping. A girl brings shame to her family when she runs away. Parents kill the guilty children in a fit of rage,”<\/em><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

This sums it up for me. The prime concern is the shame of the family. Not the welfare of the girl. Well, that’s kind of obvious – killing someone is hardly in the best interests of the victim! But I just can’t fathom the disconnect between how these people think, and how every major legal system in the world works.<\/p>\n

Children don’t ask to be born. They have no inherent responsibility to feel gratitude for their parents who are after all just doing their duty. How then, can any parent demand a sacrifice of their happiness to preserve their “honor” (or “shame” in this case!)<\/p>\n

Even assuming<\/em> that “honor” is important, how can anyone sacrifice their children for their own selfish reasons? Doesn’t every parent desire to see their child succeed even at their own cost? I don’t have children myself, so I can’t really answer this apart from what I think should<\/em> be the case. If you’re a parent, what’s your opinion on this “Child vs Parent” debate?<\/p>\n

But one thing I am<\/em> sure of. People who kill their children for such reasons view them as objects. They don’t see them as humans who have their own destiny and life. They want them to forever remain fettered, in chains and “under control.” They view their children as pet dogs – displease me and you’re of no more use. Actually that’s unfair. Dogs usually get a better deal than that.<\/p>\n

They should never be allowed to have become parents in the first place. And they’re going to jail – or the gallows as they deserve.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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