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A fews days back, we lost a wonderful person. From the moment IHM went offline two weeks ago, I was fearful that something awful had happened. And today we received the sad news that her daughter Tejaswee had passed away<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The reality of death always takes my breath away. And the death of someone who\u00a0clearly loved life so much<\/a> affected me quite a bit. Reminds me of the Mahabharat when Yudhisthira was asked by the yaksha what was the most wondrous thing in the world. Yudhisthira replied that the most amazing thing was that thousands of people die every day and each thinks it will never happen to us.\u00a0Unexpected death<\/a> is something that so few of us are equipped to deal with…<\/p>\n

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I’ve never had children, but just how does a person cope with the death of their child? I can imagine my parents dying. It’s fair. They’ve had their shot at life and though I’ll be sad, I won’t feel that something wrong has happened. But how do you deal with the death of someone who’s just starting out in life? Someone whom you’ve raised to the point when they’re about to spread their wings and take off. It’s as if you place the arrow in your bow, draw the string to your ear, hold your breath, take careful aim and when you’ve got it just<\/em> right, you’re about to let go with the anticipation of seeing it fly away on its own…and the thread snaps.<\/p>\n

But this is just my imagination. Since I’ve never had such an experience, I can only make assumptions about how I would feel. The closest experience I’ve had is when my dog Candy died at the tender age of three. She was full of life and happiness and a sudden kidney failure took her away from us. Magnify that ten or twenty times and it must be close to how a parent would feel on the death of their child…<\/p>\n

I find myself thinking how I would react if my wife dies before me. I feel the mornings would be the worst. When you sleep, you can forget for a while, but when you wake up it’s as if you’re suddenly confronted with reality for the first time. To reach out and realize there’s no one there to touch. It’s the little things that would keep reminding me. Her clothes, her stupid perfume bottles, the chairs we sat on while we watched movies and serials, the phone where I receive her calls, the t-shirts she bought for me, her chappals and shoes outside the door. It’s too painful to think about constantly.\u00a0And it can happen any time. She may not come back from work today.<\/p>\n

I’ll have to tell myself that the forces that caused her death were the same ones that made her live<\/a>. I was just lucky to have her around this long. It was either that, or nothing. And in the end, I’d rather have loved and lost than never to have loved at all…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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