{"id":3261,"date":"2011-09-22T19:34:10","date_gmt":"2011-09-22T14:04:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bhagwad.com\/blog\/?p=3261"},"modified":"2011-09-23T23:39:07","modified_gmt":"2011-09-23T18:09:07","slug":"did-he-force-her-to-commit-suicide","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bhagwad.com\/blog\/2011\/philosophy\/did-he-force-her-to-commit-suicide.html\/","title":{"rendered":"Did he force her to commit suicide?"},"content":{"rendered":"

When a 22 year old girl committed suicide recently, the police found that her boyfriend broke up with her on Facebook<\/a> and that she had specifically mentioned this as the cause of her death. The girl’s father has lodged a case against the guy who now faces 7 years in jail for “abetment to suicide.”<\/p>\n

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Facebook Breakup - who to blame for a suicide?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

But isn’t there something fundamentally wrong with this? Recently we’ve seen more and more cases of people being charged with the crime of “abetment to suicide” in situations just like this. The most famous case of course is the Rathore-Ruchika case<\/a>\u00a0where she killed herself due to extreme provocation and harassment.<\/p>\n

Now all cases are not the same. There are indeed extreme situations like the Rathore one, but at what point do we stop blaming other people for someone else’s suicide? Shouldn’t we all take responsibility for what we do? In the recent case, a guy dumping his girlfriend on Facebook neither wanted her to commit suicide, nor did he help her to. Sure, he behaved like an asshole and a jerk. For that he should be ridiculed…but charged with a crime?\u00a0If being impolite and insensitive is a criminal offence then we’d all be in the dock at sometime or the other. We’re just lucky that no one killed themselves because of it!<\/p>\n

This trend of blaming someone else for a person’s actions is pretty common in India. A guy rapes a woman and claims that he was “provoked” by her dress, mannerisms etc. A mob goes on a riot, burning buses and killing people and claims they were “provoked” by the actions of another – not their<\/em>\u00a0fault after all. A painter’s exhibits are vandalized<\/a> and the thugs claim that they were “provoked” by something they’ve probably only heard about.<\/p>\n

Now the law has to draw a line somewhere<\/em>. No one likes being dumped publicly. But most people don’t kill themselves over it. We’ve all had our hearts broken at some time in life. I know I have. I didn’t end my life. I have nothing against the poor girl who did<\/em>\u00a0kill herself, but I object to her ex boyfriend taking the rap for her suicide.<\/p>\n

Often, we just have to learn to be responsible for our actions without blaming someone else for them. That’s what it means to be an adult.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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