{"id":3591,"date":"2013-04-01T18:56:45","date_gmt":"2013-04-01T13:26:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bhagwad.com\/blog\/?p=3591"},"modified":"2013-04-01T18:56:45","modified_gmt":"2013-04-01T13:26:45","slug":"the-only-reason-to-ever-hit-a-woman-is-self-defence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bhagwad.com\/blog\/2013\/rights-and-freedoms\/the-only-reason-to-ever-hit-a-woman-is-self-defence.html\/","title":{"rendered":"The ONLY Reason to Ever Hit a woman…Is Self Defence"},"content":{"rendered":"

I came across this youtube video recently. It’s a comedian giving his take on why it’s stupid to say “There’s no reason<\/em> to hit a woman”. I guess he was playing on the word “reason” since anyone who does anything has some<\/em> reason! It may be a stupid or illogical reason, but it’s still a reason. I didn’t like the general tenor of the act though. While he did<\/em> say that one should never actually hit someone, he nevertheless comes across as partially justifying violence against women at some level.<\/p>\n

https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=GmMy_XOFbks<\/p>\n

Let me put this in perspective. There are some men who feel that a woman “provokes” them. Either with constant nagging, or saying wicked things, or talking about their family or whatever. These are used as excuses to justify hitting her. Apparently they “lost control”. To these men I say – bullshit. You’re nothing but cowards. And here’s why.<\/p>\n

Imagine that it’s not a woman in front of you but a huge burly guy fully capable of crushing your head. Or an ill tempered bear! Given the same provocation, would you hit these behemoths of pain in the same way you hit a woman? Or would you hold your hand back knowing full well that they can not only defend themselves but will punish you for trying? If you’ll keep your hands to yourself (and we all know you will), then your justifications of hitting a woman are an eyewash. You do it knowing<\/em>\u00a0that they won’t hit you back. In short – you are a coward.<\/p>\n

There are those who justify sexual assaults against women in the same way. Apparently the logic goes that seeing a woman wearing “revealing clothing” or out late at night makes them lose control. Let me tell you what “losing control” means. It means your rational brain is no longer able to control your actions. If a person really “lost control”, they would do something regardless of the danger since they’re not listening to their brain anymore.<\/p>\n

So here’s a question. If the woman was well protected by bodyguards, would you still “lose control” and attack her? Or if you knew she had an STD! Would you go ahead and rape her? Damn straight you wouldn’t. That means you never “lost control”. Your were fully sane and in complete possession of your senses. No excuses can separate you from your responsibility. You are a coward and a criminal.<\/p>\n

Anyone<\/em> who hits another without fear of being seriously hit back is a coward regardless of the provocation. This also applies to organized thugs like those employed by Bal Thackeray<\/a>. His goons never assaulted the police commissioner or a politician did they? They only went after helpless Valentine’s day couples, shopkeepers, or anyone else who they knew they could bully.<\/p>\n

If you try and draw an equivalence between “emotional violence” and physical violence and claim that one is just as serious as the other, I once again call bullshit. Physical violence removes choice. Emotional pressurizing or blackmailing still gives you the option to do exactly as you please. Saying that “women are just as bad” and using that as an excuse to hit one makes you an asshole, a criminal, and a coward all rolled into one.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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