{"id":4039,"date":"2016-01-16T05:30:06","date_gmt":"2016-01-16T00:00:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bhagwad.com\/blog\/?p=4039"},"modified":"2016-01-16T05:30:06","modified_gmt":"2016-01-16T00:00:06","slug":"male-rape-affects-me-less-than-female-rape-why","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bhagwad.com\/blog\/2016\/rights-and-freedoms\/male-rape-affects-me-less-than-female-rape-why.html\/","title":{"rendered":"Male Rape Affects Me less than Female Rape – Why?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I just finished watching “Pulp Fiction” – great movie! Funny in a surreal sort of way, where you’re never quite sure what’s going to happen. But there was one scene that got me thinking. In it, a gangster boss called Marsellus is raped by a couple of random psychos – pure freak chance. He got revenge on them minutes later, and the dialogue he gives his rapist pretty cool. “I’m gonna get medieval on your ass!”.<\/p>\n

But while I felt bad for Marsellus (who wouldn’t?) I can’t help but notice that I would have felt far worse if it had been a woman who was raped instead. I get pretty disturbed with rape scenes in movies – even those that are merely implied and not actually shown. Sharon in Battlestar Galactica, the terrifying scene in “Irreversible” and many, many others. The disgust, horror, and anger goes way beyond the mere physical pain and helplessness of the woman.<\/p>\n

But when I saw Marsellus being raped, my sympathy was restricted to the fact that what was happening must hurt like hell, and that he was helpless and going to die in a meaningless way for no reason – even though I didn’t particularly like or hate him up to that point. When I think of male rape, the sexual<\/em> aspect doesn’t really affect me as much as the physical pain.<\/p>\n

I would view a man being\u00a0raped in the same way I view someone being\u00a0held captive and tortured. There’s nothing beyond the mere physical pain, confinement, and loss of control.\u00a0As a guy, if someone gave me a choice “Either you get raped, or get a single fingernail ripped out”, I would choose to get raped. Presumably it would hurt less – I can’t say for sure. But in any case, I would choose whichever situation brought me less physical pain. The “sexual” aspect of male rape doesn’t seem to bother me as much.<\/p>\n

When it comes to a woman being raped however, suddenly the physical pain becomes a lot less<\/em> important than the fact that she is being raped!<\/em>. It disturbs me a hell of a lot more than male rape. Why these double standards? I don’t know… But it’s not just me. In some interviews, quite a few women themselves admitted to having different feelings <\/a>towards male rape vs female rape.<\/p>\n

If a woman was given the choice between being raped and having a fingernail pulled out, I can quite easily imagine lots of lots of women choosing the fingernail option. Somehow, the sexual aspect of the deed when it comes to female rape is a hell of a lot more important<\/em> than the physical pain. In fact, I would imagine that the actual physical pain of male rape is greater than what a woman would feel – again, this is just an assumption.<\/p>\n

If any women are reading this, am I right in thinking that rape is a worse fate than having a fingernail pulled out? And any guys who would choose a lost fingernail fingernail over rape?<\/p>\n

So for me, that’s the essential double standard I see in myself and I don’t know why. I get less disturbed by male rape because I look at it from the point of view of physical pain, but I get a hell of a lot more agitated if it happens to a woman. I’m not sure what the reason is.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In the scene in Pulp Fiction where Marsellus gets raped, I would have felt a lot worse if it was a woman. When it comes to male rape, for me the physical pain and loss of control is a lot more important than the sexual aspect. When a woman is raped however, the feeling is totally different. There, the sexual aspect is the most important. 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