The Woman’s Fault for dressing provocatively?

A news story in the TOI about some women getting harassed on a train irritated me, but I can’t say I was shocked. What did shock me and piss me off was one of the comments on the article saying this:

There might be so many other females in that particular train. It is the provocative dressing sense and the profession of these particular girls are making them as soft targets

Their profession was modelling and apparently some feel this gives people a god given right to sexually harass them. I’m not going to harp on about how women have the right to wear whatever they want in a free country etc etc. Instead, I want to focus on the men involved.

The essence of the above comment is this. “Men lose control of their actions when they see pretty women wearing jeans and T-Shirts. Therefore they must not be blamed.”

What …the…F***

As a man, and more importantly as an adult, I hereby declare that I have full control of my body even when a lot of attractive women are around. Therefore, anything I do in that situation is a choice I make. If I choose to behave rudely to them, I fully deserve the consequences of my actions and I can’t plead temporary insanity.

Those who argue that men can’t be blamed for passing lewd comments and behaving in a rowdy manner when women are around would do well to think of dogs. You know how dogs behave when nearby bitches are in heat? They can’t help themselves and go temporarily crazy. That’s how these men behaved. Like dogs. And those claiming that they did nothing wrong are actually saying “Poor animals – what were they to do? How can you blame them for behaving like that?”

If that’s so, then those who behave like animals need to be treated like animals who make a nuisance of themselves. Lock them up or remove their testicles. Humans who don’t behave like humans are no different. Nothing personal here. Poor things after all. They couldn’t help themselves. It’s a cruel world (sob!)

At the very least people should gather around and throw stones at these misbehaving baboons.

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55 thoughts on “The Woman’s Fault for dressing provocatively?”

  1. SANGAD KA ASAR THE HUMAN MIND IMITATES WHAT THEY SEE LEARN AND SENSE ANDWILLING TO GO ANY LENGTH TO EXPERIENCE IT.IS IS BASICALLY CULTURE MEN WHOARE WEAKENED BECAUSE OF NATURE, UPBRINGING NEIGHBOURHOOD CULTURE BASICALLY WHAT U LEARNT SEE FEEL AND THINK ARE THEREASONS FOR MEN TO BEHAVE INDECENTLY

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  2. theres a thing we do to dogs that we want to avoid going into hear that involves a tiny pair of scissors. I agree with you. Whole heartedly. A woman should be able to walk around naked if she wants to and still not get harressed, now that would be a civilized world. Personally I wouldnt mind walking naked but theres only so much the already burdened world can take.

    u know something? I am so fucking fed up of us justifying our base animal instincts. I do realize that we are all animals in garb of a social cultural hand me down but when our actions interfers with the rights of another, no matter what the gender, its time for that scissor to come out.

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  3. “It is the provocative dressing sense and the profession of these particular girls are making them as soft targets”
    I am not sure if you understood what that means, it doesn’t mean it is their fault!!
    All that you said is great in theory! Yes, a woman has the right to dress however she wants. Obviously. The man’s actions are his fault, alone. Completely true.
    So after she’s harassed you say it was his fault; is saying that going to stop that particular man from harassing other women in future? Is saying that the woman can wear whatever she wants, is wearing less clothing because you have the right to going to reduce your chances of being harassed by that very wrong and very perverted man? Maybe wearing a loose-fitting punjabi dress, for instance, might reduce the chances!
    I’m positive that is what ‘making them as soft targets’ actually means!
    It’s not the woman’s fault, but she has to bear the consequences every time. Every woman knows that. Is wearing ‘provocative’ clothing just that necessary that you can risk bearing the consequences of a man’s mistakes?! To each his own, man!!

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  4. A woman should dress herself according to where she is going! Every woman
    knows that men are visual creatures and they do get excited on seeing an attractive woman. In India, a woman should dress sensibly while travelling on a crowded public transport where she is most likely to be targeted by men.

    Dogs follow their instincts while men have control over their basic instincts. Men are supposed to control their basic sexual instincts and may be thats the reason why humans wear clothes. NOT ALL MEN CAN CONTROL THEIR BASIC SEXUAL HUNGER and thats the reason why we have LAWS and BROTHELS. Men who act like a dog, publicly or privately, break the law and men who have some control on their sexual behavior go to brothels.

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    • In reply to megha

      I’m pretty sure we evolved clothes for protection/comfort :) . Every man has control over their sexual instincts. Which is why no goon will ever tease a woman who’s well protected no matter how sexually attractive she is. They only pass comments on women who they think are vulnerable.

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      • In reply to bhagwad

        As per you a woman will get “eve teased” only if she dresses proactively.

        I do agree that wearing revealing clothes will attract attention and might give off wrong signals but a woman can be harassed by a man even if she is “well protected”. Men consider themselves superior and for some of them a woman is just a “sex object”.

        In our country, hundreds of women get eve teased everyday, regardless of what they are wearing. This will continue as long as women continue to suffer silently.

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    • In reply to megha

      I mean that men in India normally use the excuse of women dressing provocatively…which is what my whole post is ranting against in the first place. So even if you grant their premise (which I don’t) it’s not good enough because women who are not vulnerable are never molested.

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