This Guy is an Asshole for Being Rude – Not for Disliking Dogs!

You might have heard this story on Buzzfeed on how a Bangalore girl rejected a guy for not liking dogs. Instead of handing rejection gracefully, this asshole then tries to force his opinion down her throat telling her that “it’s just a temporary phase” and then “please marry the dog”. Here are the screenshots:

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Reading about this on social media, this has now apparently become a gender issue. The most common questions are:

“Why is she being made a hero? She likes dogs, he doesn’t. End of story”

Answer: Except that this is not about disliking dogs. It’s about the guys’ rudeness and the patronizing tone he adopts in the chat. He tries to browbeat her, diminish the importance of her pet, and finally downright insults her.

“What if the roles were reversed? What if the guy had rejected the girl due to a dog?”

Answer. The same damn thing would have happened! If the girl couldn’t handle rejection and had abused the guy, social media would have roasted the girl. Duh! Being an asshole is not about gender. Both men and women can fit that profile.

So why is this a big issue? Because the girl stood up for herself (and her dog) and didn’t allow herself to get bullied. Not because someone didn’t like dogs.

P.S: If you get a pet, it’s a lifetime commitment. Your pet becomes your child. Your baby. If you can’t handle it, don’t fucking get a pet.

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