5 reasons why I won’t tip you if you’re a waiter

It never fails to shock me how a tip is demanded in the US. People simply refuse to listen to reason when we (yes, there are others!) tell them that leaving a tip isn’t necessary. Well, I’m hoping for too much here, but if you’re a waiter, here are 5 reasons why I will try my best not to give any money to you and why the reasons for tipping are crappy.

1. You act as if you’re my best friend

Just leave me alone ok? I don’t want to bloody chit chat with you. I want food. FOOD! Get it? It’s a restaurant. I go there to eat. I go because I want either Italian food, Chinese Food or something else which I can’t get in a McDonald’s. So I come to a restaurant to fulfill my cravings for it. I will pay for what I value – food. Not you.

Christ, you offend me – kneeling down next to my table, pretending to like me and chatting as if you’re my best friend when it’s obvious that all you’re after is the tip! I’m not a bloody money bag you know. I will pay the bill which includes the cost of the food, the environment and the salaries of the people involved – nothing more.

The only way to get money out of me that I don’t have to legally pay is by prying it out of my cold dead hands…

Bottom line: I don’t want to know your name, or interact with you for any longer than I have to in order to place my order. As far as I’m concerned, you’re the equivalent of a conveyor belt that brings me my food and a computer into which I input my order. Of course, I won’t be rude. But don’t expect me to interact with you any more than I would with some stranger.

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Did you earn this tip?

 

2. You don’t get paid enough

And this is my problem how exactly? It’s astonishing that customers are expected to make up for your employer’s cheapness in not paying you a decent wage. Please include the full cost in everyone’s bill thank you very much. I’ll pay it because I have to and the charge is there for me to see.

What’s really funny here is that no one seems to criticize the employers! All criticism is reserved for non tipping customers instead of the owners of the restaurant for not paying a decent wage. Wtf! Could it possibly be because you guys know you can make much more by tips and under report your income to the IRS?

3. You’ll spit in my food if I don’t tip you?

And I’ll shoot your kid if you don’t give me a million dollars. Seriously, am I even hearing this right? You’re actually using the threat of blackmail to make me pay you? Well as long as you’re openly claiming to be a criminal it’s all right I guess.

Fortunately that’s why I prefer buffets. Listen apart from it being illegal, this shows your poor integrity. But if you spit in someone’s food because they didn’t give you money you didn’t earn, then you’re a loser and deserve to be a waiter for the rest of your life.

4. Bringing me my food isn’t worthy of being paid extra

Did you cook it? Did you invent it? No. You picked it up and brought it to me. While it might not be easy, there are plenty of jobs which are much worse – shop floor workers for example. And I’ve been a shop floor manager, so I know. Face it – compared to other jobs, being a waiter is unskilled. You get paid what the market will think your services are worth. You don’t deserve more for your work over and above what your employer should pay you.

5. Money doesn’t grow on trees

I expect you to be grateful and pray for me at night if I tip you 10%. Be happy I gave you anything at all. I worked for the money in my wallet and by giving you some I didn’t have to, I’m doing you a favor. Learn to remember that when people give you something they don’t need to, it’s a favor. You don’t complain that they didn’t give you more!

By the way, the same thing above applies to all professions that demand tips including those on cruise liners.

So now that you understand why I won’t give you money you don’t deserve, stop with the “oh how could you?” attitude. I can. And I will.

Update: Here’s a rebuttal of the many silly justifications for tipping that people have given in the comments section.

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Comments

  1. Erin says:

    Hey, worst person ever. It’s not the server’s fault that the restaurant industry pays 2 dollars an hour and that only tips make it so they can make a living wage. That’s just how it works. If you want to go out to eat at the same place twice and get treated better than you, you personally, deserve to be treated, then you will tip. It’s just part of the wage. It’s just unspoken. The honor system. Too bad some people are cheap, not honorable, and cheat the system. Just be good for the sake of being good.

  2. Jake says:

    I would just like to say that I am a server and feel totally entitled! Lol. If you dont want to tip servers thats cool. I just want to comment on above and beyond helping tables. Tonight I had a party of 11 who needed 2-3 drink refills each, modified every entree, wanted extra cocktail sauce(all at different times of course), lemons, ketchup, steak sauce etc. Needed to have the check split 5 ways. The check was $240 and i ended up making $17. Ok so my hourly wage is alright but it is more the thought of decency to me. Forget the money it just hurt my feelings. You can look me in the eye and ask me for one thing after another knowing you are not going to give me anything for it because you are not required to. Its sad that people have lost what it means to be kind. I wont do anything to anyone’s food or give them bad service. I was just reading things to see how people justify this in their hearts. I dont think knowing makes it better. Dont worry you will still get great service and food without having to reciprocate. This world needs an enema.

  3. JustWow says:

    The polarity in the comments makes for an interesting read; however, many of the comments also reveal ignorance of the history regarding this topic and Federal law. Here’s a link for anyone interested to start brushing up on the law:

    http://www.dol.gov/dol/topic/wages/wagestips.htm.

    Sorry waiters and waitresses. You get guaranteed pay of the Federal minimum wage. That’s the $7.25 per hour one as of 24 July 2009. It’s totaled by the minimum required to be paid to you directly by the restaurant owner and the tips you receive from the customer. If you don’t make an average of $7.25 per hour over the pay period, then the owner is obligated to make up for the gap. Please note that this is NOT the same as if you didn’t make an average of $7.25 per hour any one shift. Also, please note that this is before taxes, just like everyone else. The minimum required to be directly paid to you by the owner differs by State (http://www.dol.gov/whd/state/tipped.htm). Some States don’t allow for the tip credit, and some States require higher basic minimum wage. Please stop this ‘we only get paid $2.13 per hour’ nonsense. If that is all you truly make, your restaurant owner is breaking the law and filing a complaint with the Department of Labor is really easy. Somewhat certain that you will be granted something similar to whistle-blower status, too.

    ‘My check from the restaurant all goes to pay taxes’…AND? Everyone pays taxes and your employer is required to withhold for them usually. FICA and Medicare don’t pay for themselves, and your employer is paying other taxes on your behalf for just giving you a job. But there’s thing that you do every year…I think it is usually around April 15th or something…where you file a return. You can try and get some of that money back if you are entitled to it. If you want to talk how horrible (or great) your compensation is, the number is more like restaurant take home pay + taxes paid directly by you + taxes paid by your employer on your behalf + tips – filed return (assuming a refund). Please note that I am assuming that each and every tipped person actually claims all of their tips on their Federal return.

    Some links to the history of tipping:
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gratuity#Etymology_and_history
    http://www.ehow.com/about_6192417_history-tipping.html

    Calling it a ‘tip’ as a gratuity custom originally being an acronym for ‘To Insure Promptitude’ or similar is a myth. Historical coincidence. Besides, it doesn’t make sense. Should be ‘ensure’ and tipping should happen before the service for the extra attention. But if people prefer to stick with the blackmail inherent with suggested acronym history, by all means. I would ask that in your next service job interview, you tell the owner that you want your tips upfront and you promise to be slow if the tip doesn’t meet to your satisfaction.

    Interesting too how tipping is historically controversial and how many cultures consider it a bribe. I wonder if the view as a bribe is also a historical development after tavern folk started putting the acronym on jars?

    Getting rid of tips bad?
    http://www.slate.com/articles/life/culturebox/2013/08/tipless_restaurants_the_linkery_s_owner_explains_why_abolishing_tipping.html

    The price of a meal will not go up three-fold if the tipping culture is drastically down-scaled in favor of direct pay (through service charge or similar). Bad service folk will lose their jobs and good service folk will get a market competitive rate. Tipped service folk will make less income…income that they never reported on their tax returns anyway.

  4. Argyle Wolf-Knapp says:

    As a long – time restaurant person (chef for over a dozen years, server and sommelier for several more), I can see both sides of this argument. But the thing is, we servers make $2.13 less any charge for staff meals per hour. In my case, this translates to $1.88 an hour, which combined with tip’s must at least meet Federal minimum wage. I work in fine dining; this usually isn’t an issue.
    If you don’t believe in tipping, fine. Stick to fast food or work on legislation to change the law. If you come to the restaurant I work at and refuse to tip, you will never be allowed back in the front door, as you will have proven yourself to be a thief: it’s theft service performed by a thieving jerk who wants to chisel his/her way out of their social responsibilities.
    So if you refuse to tip, stay home. Or, as a friend of mine says “Tip me or die of thirst.”

    • lip says:

      wait wait wait… why should we work on legislation to change something that isn’t even against the law to do (or not do), because it is optional? if you want tips so bad why don’t YOU work on legislation to make it mandatory to take our money even though you’re already making at least minimum wage?

      I don’t think you know what theft is. Theft would be not paying for the bill at all. Theft is not choosing not to pay an OPTIONAL 20% on top of the bill which has already been paid. Theft would be your employer not making up the difference in your wage if you do not reach minimum during your pay period (which IS law btw).

      And it’s funny how you guys complain that you’ll just give us shitty service, therefor leaving us to occupy your tables longer; so who’s really being punished? A quick talk with the manager/owner would straighten your attitude out a bit anyway, I’m sure.

      In the end you’re doing a job that is worth minimum wage, and you are required BY LAW to be compensated if your tipped wage does not equal out to minimum wage during a pay period. SOOOOO yeah, your argument is invalid.

      • Jim says:

        Ok then. Forget about legality and minimum wage and tip so as not to be an asshole.

      • Lip says:

        That’s more what it’s about, the social obligation to tip or else you’re viewed as an “asshole” by people who mean absolutely nothing to you; people who are already being paid for their service at the restaurant.

        Restaurants are not limited to people who are well off, or can afford to pay an additional OPTIONAL 20% for something that is included in the restaurant experience to begin with. So do not come back with “if you cant tip, don’t go to a restaurant”, because I’ll just say “if you can’t afford to pay your employees a legal wage, don’t OPEN a restaurant.” Stop shifting blame to people you have never met before, and maybe put some of that on the person who is demanding you perform these duties (your boss), but is not willing to pay you. Don’t pity party people with this servers wage crap, cause it’s illegal not to make up the difference if your paycheque doesn’t amount to minimum wage. Telling people not to come will just lower your hours due to less traffic.

        That family with three kids, paying off a mortgage, cars, schooling, clothing for their kids want to go out to eat, but cant unless they’re willing to pay some 18 year old chick who probably lives with their parents for free an extra 20% cash for them to go party with after their shift is done? = Servers entitled logic

        (And yes.. I was a server for years, and I know it is not nearly as difficult as 95% of servers make it out to seem. That’s all a guilt trip to get your money)

      • JustWow says:

        Or, just thinking about all the options here, the owner could pay tipped staff more as not to be an asshole. There’s no law against being paid more than the minimum.

  5. Please die says:

    @Pieces of shit like the fucker author and his fanboys in the comments: Thank you for reassuring me to stay the fuck away of any kind of “customer service” jobs, i dont give a damn about the tips but serving shitty fuckers like you that treat everyone like shit? No way, in fact i wouldnt care if i was fired, i would throw the hot food in your faces LOL, scumbags like you dont deserve any kind of respect…

    @Kimberly: You are awesome, i love your attitude, i wish i met a waitress as nice and friendly as you when i eat at a restaurant, please dont change that attitude for FUCKERS like the whiner who wrote this shitty article and his boyfriend/prostitute sect of fanboys in the comments.

  6. Rachel says:

    It’s pointless to argue with the author of this post. At the same time he seems to be something of a misanthrope. I would wager that most of your customers are more pleasant than he. In the long run you are the happier person. This isn’t a job for the thin-skinned. When I worked customer service I would develop little short stories about my worst customers. This way they provided some entertainment along with the psychic burden.

    All that said. If I come to your restaurant I will leave a 20% minimum tip, unless you are heinously rude. Even then I might tip, depending on the circumstance.

  7. sarah says:

    The problem isn’t that people think you’re an asshole for not tipping (on good service), the problem is that you actually are one. For every non-tipping douchecanoe like yourself, there are wonderful people who sometimes tip 120%. And despite your fears, you probably won’t end up with spit in your food, but you probably will end up spending your life surrounded by people who think you’re a dick.

  8. Kelly says:

    As a waitress, its a really awful feeling to go to the table after your guests have left, and discover there’s no tip. You are left wondering if you did something wrong and upset them, or if they just don’t understand that showing gratitude to your wonderful server means leaving a few bucks on the table afterwards. I make 4.25 per hour, plus my tips,so having a customer stiff you means the difference between paying your bills and not. I think it would be great if we didnt have this whole tipping system and businesses just paid a living wage, but unfortunately that’s not how it works. So according to me, if you dont have the money to tip, then you don’t have the money to be eating there.

  9. Mandi says:

    Blake you can take your right or left hand and make sweet love to yourself. Because I highly doubt you ever get laid.

  10. Mandi says:

    Blake, my dear, your responses are so terribly uncreative and boring. I’ve had more entertaining arguments with children.
    I think any waitress you attempt to slum it with would rather have their lady parts sewn shut than have sex with the likes of you.

  11. Jess says:

    I got the needle, when we doing this ladies?

  12. Jake says:

    There people go again, throwing the word “retarded” around like it’s not insulting to people with real mental issues. Samual, do you mind telling me where you live? I would love to come and beat your fucking face and your head in, until you’re “retarded”. That way you can join the ranks of mentally disabled like me! Except that I wouldn’t have to wear a diaper or a napkin due to the drool.

  13. Kat says:

    Oh really? That’s all I do? I bring you food and that’s all? So I don’t get you your drink, answer any questions you have on the extensive menu, handle any changes you want made to your food (I.E. no mushrooms, extra cheese etcetera…), refill your drinks, handle the pissed off cooks if anything is done wrong, handle every little desire you have…. Oh wait lets not forget the lemon wedges you want for your beverage… I cut those. Oh that salad and soup you want? I prepare that for you, and arrange it on the plate so it doesn’t look like somebody just slopped it on a plate for you.

    Oh that hot fudge brownie sundae you want? Oh wait it’s me who heats it up, and prepares everything for you. But yeah I just bring you your food, deal with your shitty attitude with a sweet smile and soothing words. Oh you hated this? Let me get you something else… And then go back and have to have the cook make it.

    Oh but I only hand your food to you. I don’t actually work… Oh and lets not forget, the salt pepper and sugar shakers on the counter? I fill and clean those. The small pitcher of creamer? I clean them, make the creamer, and fill them. Oh your dirty table? I bus and clean that. The floors? Oh I mop those too. Oh you have a smudge of food on your menu? Yup you guessed it, I’m,m the one who cleans those. Oh your special sheet in the menu is dirty? I’m the one that takes it apart, and replaces it with a clean one.

    Oh wait you have to pay. Guess what? I check you out on the cash register too! Oh you want stuff to go? I prepare and get everything ready for you.

    But seriously I don’t have a real job. I don’t really work at all. So I don’t deserve a tip.

    I work my ass off every single day to make a living. No it isn’t the job I want, nor will I do it for the rest of my life. But I make decent money through tips, and the restaurant I work at is filled with amazing coworkers, the best boss I could ever hope to have, and we make each and every long day standing on our feet and running around a fun filled day.

    And for those people who are jackasses and do not tip, maybe you should actually try being waitstaff. You would be singing a different tune.

    Also I do want to point out, it is the hardest workers, and the people with the crappiest jobs who work the hardest. Those of you with giant salaries and who are too “high class” to tip, you just sit on your asses all day long and don’t understand what WORKING means.

    And no, I don’t spit in people’s food, or screw with their orders. I’m not that kind of person. But if someone who stiffs me comes in and sits in my section again, and demands the same service is a moron. If you come sit in my section you will get a tiny glass of water, put in your order. I won’t bring you your drinks, your sides will take forever to get out to your table, and I will withhold you order for a long while, and leave it sitting there so it comes out lukewarm. I won’t check up on you, you won’t see me again actually. And if you try to flag me down I will walk into the back where you can’t follow me. And my boss will stand by and laugh, because if she was a waitress again she would do the same exact thing. Oh and when you would go up to complain we will just point at a sign hanging on the wall stating COMPLAINT DEPARTMENT IS 300 MILES AWAY.

    If you don’t tip me, don’t expect good service. End of story. I mean ya’ll do know what TIPS stands for right? TO INSURE PROPER SERVICE.

  14. Ren says:

    You will be fired so fast.

  15. Jake says:

    If that’s the requirements for being a waiter or waitress, You’d fit right in. Have at it dumbass.

  16. Jake says:

    Obviously you have been living a fantasy life if you think I’d be fired for kicking someone’s ass. At best I’d be arrested for assault and temporarily suspended from my non waiting job. Woopty doo. Come at me, bro.

  17. Brad says:

    Complain to your employer for giving you a shitty wage. Do not throw your frustration at the customers for having a crappy job. You waiters /waitresses tipping is OPTIONAL. If you don’t like that term, DON’T WORK FOR $2.50 an hour.

  18. tehy says:

    You know, it’s funny how you could make the argument that tipping isn’t necessarily bribing, thus possibly justifying it. And yet, every word typed by these waiters convinces me that it totally is. Saying you won’t give me the best service or w/e if I don’t tip is debatable, but the kind of behavior talked about here is insane. Bringing me my meals when they are ready is your JOB, as is being available to acquire new orders, writing down orders on a piece of paper, et cetera. Spitting in my food or any of that crap is illegal. So often waiters mention ‘free refills’ as a reason to tip; also illegal, and smacks of bribery to commit crimes. Plus, why not just pay for the refills? Why do I have to pay you extra for you to do your JOB? The correct situation would be for you to get paid minimum wage (or whatever you’re really worth), and then we can just pay more for food. Of course, that would lead to you getting paid what you’re actually worth, and you wouldn’t want that, now would you?

    Also, you really sound like a whiny bitch when you talk about cutting lemon wedges as a separate part of the job. Ditto for all that other stuff, some of it is legitimate but mostly it’s just nonsense.

  19. David says:

    So you write a few extra words down with the specifics of how/what somebody wants on their food, and the chef has to prepare it. This warrants a tip? Seems like you’re doing whats in your job description.

    You refill my drinks? Sounds like the job description for the job you are doing. Mcdonalds employees refill my drinks, so that’s not special to the experience and I don’ t see how that deserves a tip. Especially when 90% of the time it would have been more convenient for there to be a machine for me to get my own refills. The refill argument is easily replaced by a fountain pop machine in the dining area.

    You have to deal with the “pissed off cooks” anyway. People in any profession of customer service deals with pissed off people all of the time, but don’t feel entitled to extra wages afterwards.
    You put my “hot” fudge sundae in the microwave for me, and served my “hot fudge sundae” to me hot? That seems like a daunting task to serve a menu item the way it is supposed to be served.

    I never have a shitty attitude at a restaurant, why would I go out to eat while im pissed off or in a bad mood? There are customers who are miserable and will make work harder for you, like any customer service job, get over it.
    The fact you are doing the job of the busboy/custodial team shouldn’t fall on my conscience, but instead the employers paying you a fair wage.

    Im pretty sure it’s common practice for a restaurant to have full salt/pepper shakers, and full condiments. That’s not going above and beyond to provide exceptional service; it’s a basic task which every restaurant does.

    When I want to pay you print off a receipt and bring it to me, another task in your job description while being hired. That is not a special task and nothing to brag about or use as an argument to warrant tips. Most of the time the server brings me a to-go container to my table and I box my leftovers myself, why should they be tipped for that?

    In the past, I worked as a security guard at Medieval Times. I made 10.25/hour and worked 40 hours a week. On top of that I took on many responsibilities of the cleaning staff, and even the bar staff. Cleaners made 14 an hour and I was making 10.25 doing their duties. I would also help the bar clean up at the end of the night, take deliveries at shipping and receiving and set up kegs/store alcohol in the fridges downstairs. Run bottles to them if they were running low, bring drinks to tables sometimes and was in charge of cutting people off when they got too drunk. They made 10.25 PLUS tips, and all I would hear from them is complaining when a table left a 10 dollar tip on a 150 dollar bill. EVERY SINGLE DAY someone would be complaining about it when they just made over a hundred dollars in tips plus 10.25 an hour on a 4 hour shift. They would start after me, leave before me, and walk out of the building with more in tips than I made working my whole shift helping them, plus walked out with an hourly wage equal to mine. And this is Medieval Times, a fixed menu where servers walk with trays and place the same thing on every plate, yet they felt hard done by when they didn’t get a tip over 15%. They didn’t deserve a tip at all.
    15-20 dollars per beer and 60 per meal. Because they decide to charge 20 for a budweiser I should tip 4 dollars on every one of them, when down the street a budweiser is $4. So for the EXACT same product, and, description wise, the EXACT same service I should tip them only a dollar?

    If both were being paid the same (fair) wage, there wouldn’t be a gap in the income of different servers. If tips were used the way they were intended to be (for exceptional service, not just to be treated like a human and served at all) it would benefit way more servers than would be hurt by it. Making a livable wage and then having the public giving OPTIONAL tips would ensure that the majority of servers could survive.

    Servers are the worst people because they complain like they’re so hard done by (because of the public and not their employer) when they’re really just doing whats expected of them in their job description. The fact that tips are expected, or even demanded (by the way servers act) regardless of them going above and beyond their job description makes tipping a terrible practice.

    The all familiar saying now “If you cant afford to tip, don’t go to a restaurant”

    why is that the saying? Why should I not be able to go get basic service when I am glad to pay the listed price? (which is inflated to cover costs of wages/restaurant expenses) I’m really the scum of the earth because your restaurant is charging 700-1000% inflated prices on a shot of alcohol, and I’m expected to also pay your workers wage by paying an additional fee for them doing their job?

    why is the saying not “If you can’t afford to pay a reasonable wage, don’t open a restaurant”
    I’m not saying it is easy being a server, but the difficulty of your job should not be a reason for me to pay you more than I have to. A lot of jobs are hard, and require a hell of a lot more experience than it takes to be a server yet they’re getting paid fair wages and not relying on the consumer to pay extra than the marked price.

    Servers can shift the blame to the public for not coming in and dropping 20% extra on their bill instead of blaming the person who makes them rely on that 20%, but it just makes servers look like whiny, ungrateful and narrow minded people to me.
    I have never met a server who doesn’t complain about tips at every chance possible, even when some are making more than $150+ for 4 hours of work. I’d love to see them find another job with the level of experience/education they have where they can make a wage like that.
    Id imagine that most of the time the ones complaining about how their wages rely on tips are the ones who are making more money than somebody with a job like that should, and would make less money if they were offered a fair wage. You hate me for not tipping, instead of hating that you have to rely on tips because your employer pons the responsibility of paying you a livable wage on the consumer. That is why there are people doing the exact same job (maybe even easier), but because they’re prettier, or at a more expensive restaurant, they’re able to live off of tips and you cant. And that’s apparently my fault.

    Tipping should be for above and beyond service, not for the very basic service provided by any restaurant (getting refills, writing down what somebody wants/doesn’t want/allergies, being friendly to me, smiling and not looking miserable, and bringing me the bill)
    I’d much rather put a tip directly in the pocket of the chef who cooked me my meal (the reason for going out, not to interact with a server), than to give it to somebody just relaying me the thing I am there for. You don’t tip the FedEX dude ontop of shipping and handling prices for bringing you the package you ordered. Instead, im forced to feel obligated to tip the server who gives like 1% of that to the chef.

    I bet if restaurants gave the option of offering a Tip section or a No tip section, in which there is a machine to get your own refills, a computer to punch in your own order at your table, and a window to pick up your meal when it is finished being cooked and you pay on your way out, it would flourish. It would probably destroy the service industry once employers realized that it’s not only quicker, but also a lot cheaper and safer for liability suits.

    I know everybody is programmed to hate me due to my view on tipping, and I am aware that I’m going to hear it from servers who have misplaced hatred and play the victim. Get mad at the laws, the employers and workers rights before you get mad at somebody who has no obligation to make sure you can make a living off of your job.

  20. John Snow says:

    The restaurant is required to pay their employees AT LEAST minimum wage no matter how much they made in tips. So when I don’t tip, more of your salery comes from your employer like its supposed to. Let’s not forget what a tip is, it’s supposed to be a totally voluntary gift to the service workers who do a really good job. Not a hidden fee. And frankly, if your work ethic is so poor that you would go out of your way to inconvenience a person who chooses not to gift you extra money, you don’t deserve it at all! There is a strange sense of entitlement that plagues wait staff these days.

  21. Kat says:

    Oh trust me we all have.

    But I can complain about you assholes who come in to eat, and expect for me to be your own personal servant. No matter what my wage, I’m not a personal servant, nor will I ever be treated like one.

    Or the people who are nasty, rude, and overall enjoying making my good day turn into a completely shitty one.

    Oh and tipping is optional. If you would come into my workplace, not tip me, even though I gave you great service, and you came back in again on a different day, then it is my option whether to give you good service, or service at all. People like you will never get a refill, checked up on, I will intentionally give you a fucked up order… Oh dessert? Nope since I will not go anywhere near your table, nor will any of my coworkers. Nobody will help you, and if you walk over to us, we will smirk, laugh, and ignore you. And when you get up and leave, we will stand there and laugh at you. Everyone seems to forget the golden rule of don’t piss off the people that handle your food. ((Oh and the best part is that I will have already gone to my boss, and told her what was going on, and she would support us, and not listen to any of your complaints! And will outright say, well if you had tipped her last time…))

  22. Kevin says:

    Couldn’t agree more

  23. ummm bro? says:

    “DON’T WORK FOR $2.50 an hour.” Are you fucking serious? If you actually assume people have a choice then you are a spoiled brat who was handed everything in life. People have to take what is on offer….dying of pneumonia under a bridge is not a survival strategy….thats what happens to most Americans (not the kind whose mommies and daddies paid for everything…like you) who decide they are not going to work because the only thing on offer is still poverty level pay.

  24. Stefan Paul says:

    And if you don’t like tipping, at least be man enough to inform your server before you order anything, so he or she knows going in to the experience that he or she will be working for no financial reward. Seriously, you people go to restaurants knowing full well you’re not going tip; yet, you won’t give your server the same courtesy. As such, you know you’re going to get their best service and you don’t have to provide anything in return. If you don’t like tipping, tell them ahead of time, & then see how good your service is. If you can’t man up & do that, go out to dinner somewhere they don’t have servers.

  25. Stefan Paul says:

    Oh yeah, Brad? Then be a man & tell your server about your typing beliefs ahead of time. That way they can give you the corresponding service.

  26. loly says:

    hi Kat,

    you make waiting sound like some scientific job that demands talents and skills. almost every job that demands customer service require human interaction and invlove complains. not everyone gets a tip. you took a $2 an hour job. deal with it

  27. loly says:

    you sound like you hate doing your job. please quit. I do not get a tip where I work. There are good days and bad days, but that is life. I like what I do so I continue to do with a smile on my face and with no tip

  28. tehy says:

    All wait staff seem to forget the golden rule of DO YOUR JOBS.

    You people think you’re fucking gods? That’s fine, I’ll find another pantheon, and by that I mean restaurant.

    And no, don’t tell me every wait staff acts like this. See, your boss is clearly more interested in being ‘cool’ then maintaining her job (or keeping herself financially afloat, if she is the owner). Some restaurants actually realise that keeping on petty staff more obsessed with tips than anything else hurts your business, since those are PAYING CUSTOMERS. I’ll give my custom to them, instead.

  29. Marie says:

    No, see, you dont have that right. Yes, tipping is optional, SERVICE from a SERVICE PROFESSIONAL (so called, in your case) is NOT optional, it is your JOB. And i say this having been on both sides of the issue, and actually being a good tipper AND a good server. You are not a good server, you are an entitled, spoiled brat, from what you have posted, and your manager is stealing from her employer (or maybe just herself if she owns the place, thats on her) by letting you behave this way towards the customers. You should grow up a little and admit that people like me, who give excellent tips, even when the service is sub par (i always assume you are having a bad day, had a family crisis, are coming down with something, whatever, maybe poor servers should let us know ahead of time so we can tip accordingly, just as some (maybe you?) have suggested poor tippers do. Oh and that whole “to insure prompt service” thing, you know thats a myth right? It used to be called a “gratuity” and still is on most official paperwork, because if someone is GRATEFUL that you have served them well, they may give you a gratuity. You should check your privilege.

    Here is a “tip” for your edification, and that of every nitwit on this board who spouts the “to (e)nsure prompt service” nonsense… http://www.snopes.com/language/acronyms/tip.asp

  30. David says:

    I would run my bill up and not pay it, then see whos laughing when it comes out of your cheque

  31. Ros says:

    So, if a customer doesn’t leave a tip, which is optional in the first place, you will not do your job. A job your employer pays your for?

  32. Matt says:

    Blackmail is always a great way to get people to do what you want…

  33. V says:

    I would call your manager, you would get fired, and I would probably get sent a gift card in the mail. In reality, this is how your scenario would work out. Just saying.

  34. brittnee says:

    Hahaha I find this hilarious, I make anywhere from $15-
    $45 an hour where I work serving tables, I bust my ass and deal with drunk shit people all the time, but do I complain? I work for 5hours and walk with $300 don’t be mad cuz your bachelor’s degree makes you less than I do, ahhh awe :( and just speaking on my behalf if you tip me bad or not at all, I just feel sorry for you. that you can have me as your own personal slave,and revert back to the olden days. I deserve your tip. And if I don’t get it ? I smile and am thankful for the people who do. Xoxoxo go fuck yourself guy

  35. brendon says:

    No please don’t. Just stay home. It’s obvious this stuff is way over your head.

  36. erwt says:

    I like your attitude, brittnee :) You do your job regardless of whom don’t tip you. You see that you deserve tip even if someone else might not share this vision with you but you do your job in which you were hired. You don’t use a stupid logic like, I’ll spit on your food or drink if you don’t tip me. You don’t use stupid logic like my employer is not responsible for my wages but the society is, and they should empathize with my poorly paid job and therefore tip well. You know your job is to serve and you’re thankful to whom tipping although you’re not well behaved I see from your language.. but again maybe this is one qualification that suits some bad customers!!

  37. brittnee says:

    Remember my poor non-tipping customers, I deserve your tip and if I don’t get it, You all deserve to get fucked. Xoxoxo

  38. youve says:

    I DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY YOU PEOPLE FEEL LIKE YOU ARE ENTITLED TO BE OUR “PERSONAL SLAVE.” FUCK! YOU DON’T FUCKING HAVE TO! Look, serving people FOOD is not being a “personal slave.” IF they ask for ANYTHING MORE than you serving their food, you can fucking complain. That’s fine. But when you think you’ve been ENSLAVED to serve food, there are a couple of things that come into my mind:

    1) You probably shouldn’t work. But look, you’re still working, because you get a lot of money for it.
    2) Don’t deal with shit other thank serving food. Period. ITS THAT FUCKING EASY.

    Good day.

  39. Lip says:

    If i could have you as my own “personal slave” I could get you to suck my dick during my stay at your restaurant. Thats about the only thing you’d do during that day that would warrant 45 dollars an hour. bitch.

  40. Ali says:

    @brittnee
    You don’t deserve a tip AT ALL. IT IS YOUR JOB TO SERVE REGARDLESS IF YOU’RE TIPPED OR NOT. Why? Because you were HIRED by THE RESTAURANT to SERVE. They are the ones who PAY YOU. Not the customers. Tipping is just extra and OPTIONAL. This whole “I deserve to be tipped even though I’m suppose to be doing my job” is ridiculous.

    If I don’t want to tip. I won’t. I didn’t hire the server, the restaurant did. I just pay the food. THAT IS ALL I’M REQUIRED TO DO. Nothing more.

  41. Jess says:

    @Ali, slavery is out the door my friend. A servers job is to bring your food out, everything else they do is extra so why wouldnt they deserve extra? There have been times where I’ve left my restaurant because we were out of something that my customers were in the mood for, such as tea etc. This sure as hell wasn’t in my job description, and I wasnt reimbursed for this action by my employer because going the extra mile isn’t in the job description. Our employer basically pays us for the minimum effort if anything, everything else we do isnt in our job description but you seem to be all for slavery so have at it. (:

  42. Someone says:

    Meany Head. They could spit in your food or kill you in your sleep by tracking your mean bum down.
    Butt Face.

  43. tehy says:

    You’re getting paid.

    Money.

    Please, explain to me how that’s slavery exactly?

    It’s great that you’re going the extra mile to make the customer happy. Many employees do that. They don’t expect or get tips or rewards from management, just job satisfaction (and return customers.)

    Why should you be different, exactly?

  44. tehy says:

    You are literally getting paid money in a job you can leave at any time.

    So basically, no resemblance to slavery at all.

    He’s not required to pay you jack, the restaurant itself is required to do that, and we all want waiters to just get paid a normal wage.

    But hey, as long as you bring something like slavery into the argument, maybe you can muddle the issues enough to pretend like you’re not wrong, right?

    To digress here, good for you. Plenty of employees do stuff like that. They don’t expect or get tips or rewards from management. What they do get is satisfaction and return customers. Why should you be any different?

  45. youve says:

    It all boils down to the system having a problem. The fact that you have to do that extra but not be paid for it is a shame. But one cannot rely solely on the customer to give you tips, and have them say “Oh of course, I understand the pain you are going through, I’m so sorry for you. Here, have more money.” You should expect that the waiter/waitress job is entitled to these kinds of services. IF YOU FEEL THAT YOU ARE NOT BEING PAID THE AMOUNT YOU DESERVE, THEN YOU MAKE THE CHANGE IN YOUR WORKPLACE. That is not something the customer has to worry about when they walk in after a long day at work with their own problems to think about.

  46. tehy says:

    well the first comment didn’t appear to go through

    so yeah, please just delete the first one

  47. Julie says:

    Yes, tipping is optional. Yes, waitresses/waiters do not get paid enough an hour. And yes, they agree to work with these standards because the majority of people tip them well. This is because the people who tip well are decent humans. People who do not tip because they think they’re “above” wait staff are simply assholes. And not people I’d ever want to associate with. You not tipping the wait staff reflects far more on you than it does on them. Stop being such a stingy, uptight dick and try to do something nice for someone else. Jesus, this article was beyond pathetic.

  48. Anthony says:

    It’s not “our bosses don’t pay us enough,” it’s that servers get paid $2.13 an hour. This is a FEDERAL server wage, and it’s not something the employer can simple change. THAT is why servers don’t come running to their boss because their hourly isn’t good enough. When you go into a restaurant in the U.S. (it’s not like this everywhere, but no one cares what it’s like in another country – this is the reality in THIS country), you should be preparing to tip. It’s not a common courtesy thing. It’s the reality of going to dine in a restaurant – your waitstaff is doing FAR more than simply taking your order and bringing it to you when it’s complete.

    They do just as much sidework as most other hourly paid jobs. They clean, restock, deal with hundreds of guests daily, answer questions, and maintain knowledge of their product/services, among MANY other things. The difference? In a normal hourly job where those things are pretty standard labor chores, they get paid next to nothing per hour. When you go to a restaurant, you aren’t just paying for food. You’re paying for SERVICE as well. You may not like that you have to pay the worker to work, but when you go into a restaurant, you are basically acting as their ‘boss.’ They provide service for YOU so that YOU are satisfied with your experience. If you just want food, there’s a grocery store full of it. You can buy it yourself, prepare it exactly how you want, and then enjoy it at your convenience. But a restaurant isn’t a grocery store. You’re paying not only for food, but for convenience. You’re being paid to be brought everything you want without lifting a pinky. The least you could do while being as lazy as you are is appreciate the service that’s being given to you, and REWARD the person that is allowing you to be so lazy.

  49. Jess says:

    I get the impression you’re not rich or important. I’ve never heard of a Scott miller, therefore you’re nobody of interest or value. And to think anyone even wants to serve you makes me laugh; trust me, I wouldn’t feel honored at all, probably sorry for you, if you’re lucky (:

  50. bhagwad says:

    You mean there’s a law against restaurants paying their waiters a minimum wage? Shocking!

    Also remember that employers are also required by law to make up at least minimum wage to their employees if tips don’t cover it.

  51. 1 says:

    Look. If you have a problem with us customers not giving you an award for your services. Please. Go take this problem to the federal court. We only want to eat. We appreciate your “extra” services, but so long as carrying your job out is concerned, we think they are all extra. We want food in our stomachs, and your job should only entail you delivering us our food. That is it. If you think that printing out the receipt, decorating our plates, and cutting up lemon slices to be placed on our water cups is extra service, you should probably talk to your employer and consult the federal system about that. We thank you, but that is not necessary. And I understand that the expectation on the level of service has risen a bit, because the customers themselves believe that they are entitled to extreme service – those who think that they need that lemon slice, or they will sue. They have been spoiled to the point of no return, and there is no obligation on your part to bring them back a sense of humbleness that they get to eat in the first place. You should certainly not feel like you are enslaved when you are working. And we don’t know your circumstances that brought yourself to take on the job of being a waiter or waitress. But please don’t place the blame on the customer simply because they don’t tip. It is simply their choice, and it is optional, like most of you admitted. You are absolutely not entitled to feel offended when they do this, per it being optional. We know you are having a hard time making living wages, but it is true that you are paid a minimum higher than 2 dollars in the case that you are not paid your tips. If we believe that you have certainly gone out of your way to make sure everything is comfortable for us, we thank you, even if it was not necessarily for those who did not ask for such service. But please don’t expect anything. We did’t ask for it.

  52. JustWow says:

    Uhmmm…your boss CAN pay you as much as they choose. There’s no law against paying more than minimum.

  53. Krystle says:

    What everyone seems to be forgetting is that if servers were paid minimum wage the cost of your meal would triple and you wouldn’t get good service just for the simple fact there would be less staff on the floor. TIP means ” to insure promptness ” and I’ve been doing it for 12 years and it is hard work. Its not as simple as taking an order and walking away. Hey if its busy your not getting a break. Hell I’m lucky if in a 12 hour period if I get to go to the bathroom a couple times. We work when sick because theres no sick time. No health benefits. Not to mention we’re working in a time were no matter what the job your lucky to have one. And hey if there weren’t servers who’s gonna bring you your water with lemon and your meal because your ass is to lazy to cook. So your knocking on tipping why because YOU don’t wanna cook. Its very simple don’t like tipping then either A. Get fast food or B. Cook your own food and serve you own dumbass

  54. J Young says:

    If you believe that you’re an idiot!

  55. Joe says:

    Do you even know what minimum wage for tipped employees is? it is 2.13/hr. that is the Federal Minimum Wage. look it up. you know what else. even with inflation, that number has not changed since the 80′s. Just imagine for a brief moment that you were starting a new job at the 80′s minimum wage of 3.35/hr and you still needed to make your current monthly rent, feed yourself with today’s food prices, and pay bills to keep your heat and electricity running. that is assuming you do not have anything such as student loans or children to worry about. I will agree. Servers today are lucky. they are lucky that most people in this country are not like you and do tip well. in a small town at a family restaurant I was lucky to make 60 dollars on a slow night for a long 8 hour shift that is 7.50/hr in case you need the help with math. on a busy night for that same shift, which happens rarely in a small town, i am lucky to make more than 120 in one night which is 15.00/hr. add to all of that small business can not afford to keep their employees more than 28 hours because they would be forced to purchase health insurance for them weather they could afford it or not. so at the end of any given week after taxes, and after living expenses, I have roughly 100-150 dollars by the end of the week. I have to work 3 jobs just to pay bills. this is not what I will be doing with my life, but it is the reality of it. granted this is just small town experience talking. I hear serving in the cities can be extremely lucrative.

  56. youve says:

    WRONG. TIP does NOT mean “to insure promptness.” That’s where your education has served you incorrectly.

    tip3
    tip/Submit
    noun
    noun: tip; plural noun: tips
    1.
    a sum of money given to someone as a reward for their services. <—- THIS.
    synonyms: gratuity, baksheesh; More
    verb
    verb: tip; 3rd person present: tips; past tense: tipped; past participle: tipped; gerund or present participle: tipping
    1.
    give (someone) a sum of money as a way of rewarding them for their services. <—— THIS.
    "I tipped her five dollars"

  57. bobby rags says:

    I work as a waiter and have been for the past 18 years. This is a profession I choose to engage in….my friends, it is not your civil duty to tip us. I totally respect your views, but don’t dehumanize us….I have a college degree as well, which does not elevate me to status of god almighty…..my sole purpose is to make peoples dining experience pleasurable. Fortunately there are people who like to tip regardless of the cultural norms or customs….I personally observed many europeans accepting tips, as I lived there for 8 years….and tipping is not widely suggested…for those of you complaining about not getting tipped….stop worrying. Do your job and good things will happen for you. Don’t be concerned with clients who don’t tip, as it is there right my friends. Please treat them with at least the same respect as you would any other guest or client

  58. SD Houston says:

    Actually, this is correct. TIP = To Insure Prompt service.
    This was well before tips were the norm. This started when customers would occasionally throw their waiter/waitress a couple of extra bucks when they first sat down in hopes that he or she would give them extra attention.

    Eventually it started becoming more common, enough that the IRS started seeing it and realizing that it could be considered a taxable form of income.

    So, now you see what we have here today.

  59. Rachel says:

    you really have no idea that the tip-earners minimum wage is 2.13, and most of that goes to taxes right? so if nobody tips, watiresses don’t get paid. That’s slavery my friend.

  60. Lip says:

    *clap clap* How clever, Jim. You hit the nail on the head with that one… I’ll give you a tip, but only the tip ;)

  61. Lip says:

    Actually it’s not correct, unless you’re working for teps (to ENSURE prompt service)

    in·sure
    inˈSHo͝or/
    verb
    1.
    arrange for compensation in the event of damage to or loss of (property), or injury to or the death of (someone), in exchange for regular advance payments to a company or government agency.
    “the table should be insured for $2,500″
    provide insurance coverage with respect to.
    “subsidiaries set up to insure the risks of a group of companies”
    synonyms: provide insurance for, indemnify, cover, assure, protect, underwrite; More
    2.
    secure or protect someone against (a possible contingency).
    “by appeasing Celia they might insure themselves against further misfortune”

    vs.

    en·sure
    enˈSHo͝or/
    verb
    make certain that (something) shall occur or be the case.
    “the client must ensure that accurate records be kept”
    synonyms: make sure, make certain, see to it; More
    make certain of obtaining or providing (something).
    “she would ensure him a place in society”
    synonyms: secure, guarantee, assure, certify, safeguard, set the seal on, clinch, entrench
    “legislation to ensure equal opportunities for all”
    make sure that (a problem) shall not occur.

    Basic English.

  62. V says:

    That sounds like a personal problem, but it’s not mine. Your employer will make up the wages, so I could care less if you don’t go home with my extra change jingling in your pocket. You’re covered, so I really don’t care.

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